21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5 NIV
It happened just 2 weeks ago. It all started last year when Fiona won a trip to Hawaii, Fiona really wants to go with me alone and enjoy her achievement together, but i strongly disagree to leave our kids with our maid I want to stay home and take care the children. Since than on and off we had small argument on this and although we look normal but there is bitterness growing in my heart, the last 2 months I been sleeping with the kids, for 2 reasons, 1st my heart is not right, and 2nd is Chloe always wake up in the middle of the night and wake me up, and I have to but her back to bed. For the last 6 years, that’s always the same every night, we try everything from buying different kind of bed and settings, it never work. Anyway, 2 weeks ago, my brother Steve came from AU, and we are praying about the issue between on me and Fiona. Steve explain to me how God wants our marriage to be and we go through Ephesians 5:25 together. God really convicted my heart and now I see I’m not putting my wife first before the kids, now I see for all this time, my focus is in the children and not my wife. I feel very sorry and I repent to God and ask for forgiveness.
In the afternoon, when I meet with Fiona, I tell her how sorry Im and how I thought I was a good husband for all this time. From my up bring, I thought feeding our home, take care the kids is the focus and forgot about my wife. A lot of people teach me how to love my family, plan for the children, but not many people taught me how to love my wife. Thank you God for opening my eyes, and now I know. God is the center and my wife is always before kids and everything else. Since the prayer, repent to God, apologize to my wife, I see miracle happen that night, Chloe and Mia sleep through the night without waking up, and the last 2 weeks they didn’t wake up even once… this is so amazing. God is so good, this is confirmation for me that I’m back on track.
And last week, God puts in my heart and wants me to get to know more about a parent at Chloe’s class. I start seeing him everyday after school, I know he had cancer and first I though God want us to pray for his cancer, I invite them to dinner at our home. I started to share this testimony with him and his wife, and his wife is completely touched and she said for all this time, she felt the same, and she said she been praying for this and she is so glad to have a brother to share her husband. Now I know God bring us together is not about the cancer, is for us to share this testimony and learn from each other on how to love our wife, and focus on our relationship.